Ukuba sijonga ngasemva, siyaqonda ukuba ubuntwana ezazinabo izizukulwana zangaphambili ngokubhekisele kulutsha lwanamhlanje akunanto yakwenza nako. Kuhlala kusithiwa kule mihla sele ukhulile ebudaleni (ingxelo eya kuthi ibangele impikiswano kwaye andivumelani nayo, nangona eli ingeloxesha okanye indawo yokuxoxa ngayo). E-Spain, ubudala besininzi yi-18. Utshintsho olubaluleke kakhulu olwenzeka "ukusuka kolunye usuku ukuya kolandelayo." Siye salala xa sasineminyaka eyi-17 kwaye ngengomso sele singabantu "abadala" ngemvume yokuthenga utywala, icuba kunye neendawo zokufikelela ezingavumelekanga "kubantwana."
Ukuza kweminyaka akufikelelwa ngokucima amakhandlela ali-18 kwikhekhe lokuzalwa. Yinto enzulu kakhulu eyahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Ngoku, ndishiya ecaleni le migca, inxenye, endikhonze njengendawo yokuphuma, bendifuna ukwabelana nani nonke umbuzo ophambili kweli nqaku. Ndingayifumana itattoo ukuba ndingaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 ubudala? Ukuvasa umvambo wokuba mncinci yinto engummiselo wosuku.
Zininzi abakwishumi elivisayo abaneminyaka eli-17 sele benalo uhlobo oluthile lwe tattoo. Kodwa Ngaba kusemthethweni ukwenza itattoo eSpain? Ukuba sijonga umthetho okhoyo ngoku, siyayibona loo nto kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane umvambo ngelixa ungaphantsi kobudala. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba singaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18, kufuneka siye kufundo lwe Iitato nge isigunyaziso esisayinwe ngutata, umama okanye umgcini osemthethweni. Ngaphandle koko, kwaye ukuba kuye kwafunyanwa ukuba umvambo wenze itattoo kumntwana ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali bakhe okanye yomgcini osemthethweni, uya kugwetywa isohlwayo semali ebalulekileyo.
Ngendlela, kweli nqaku bendifuna ukubeka ecaleni i Ingxoxo malunga nokuziphatha nokuba umntu ongaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 uneenqobo ezaneleyo zokufumana umvambo. Ngokwam, amava am okuqala kwihlabathi leinki xa ndandineminyaka engama-23 ubudala. Ngeli xesha ndibhala le migca, ndineminyaka engama-27 ubudala, sele ndinengalo yam yasekhohlo ebhalwe tattoo ngokupheleleyo kunye nelungelo lam "lisasebenza." Kwaye inyani kukuba, andizisoli ngokuqala "kade" kubugcisa bokwenza umvambo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba okukhona umdala, izigqibo ezingcono siya kuzithatha. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba akukho mfuneko yokukhumbula ukuba itattoo yeyobomi bonke, ke kufuneka sithathe isigqibo esibaluleke kakhulu xa kufikwa kumvambo.